The other day we were taking our daughter for her first day to KG, he didn’t have to come. He never did with our 5 yr old. But sure that should be a nice thing.
Husband: When are we gonna go down?
Me: We go down 7:45.
Husband: Why not earlier?
Me: Because we need to be there 8:30 and the road takes 25 min, so i am giving it an extra 15min just incase of a any delays on the road or something goes wrong. I think a 15 min contingency is fine.
Husband: I think we should go down earlier like around 7:40.
Me: I don’t see why, but sure.
Husband: Ok, i’ll go get ready
Our two yr old and i go in to get ready as well. I help her wash up, brush her teeth, we both get dressed, get her lunch box done, prepare her breakfast, take her vitamins and we’re done by 7:40 and we wait.
He gets out of the shower at 8, by the time we call the uber and are in the car it’s 8:05.
Me: We’re late
Husband: Didn’t i tell u, u should listen to me when it comes to timings?
Me: you r the one who is 25 min late
Husband: I am just saying listen to me, i know what i am talking about
Me: But u r the who is late.
Husband: Why r u so argumentative and have to talk back, just listen to what i have to say and that is it.
Me: I am not, u r driving me crazy.
Husband: You always have something to say. Stop it, just listen and that is it.
But is doesn’t stop there, does it. I start going through what happened in my head a hundred time. Since i am now silenced, i have nothing to do but that. Did i mis something? Did he mean something else? Is he really changing my reality?